Stop Making Excuses, You Owe It To Yourself!

Stop Making Excuses, You Owe It To Yourself!

“Strength comes from every hurdle we have to jump, every corner we have to turn & every obstacle that stands in our way… We are Woman, Strong Today & Tomorrow.”

 Nishan Panwar

Stop Making Excuses

Have you ever been in the situation where you KNOW that something in your life needs to change, but you are reluctant to do anything about it? If so, you certainly aren’t alone – I know from personal experience the great lengths you can go to in order to preserve the very situation that you want to get out of! This usually involves a fair bit of moaning or blaming or making excuses. Now is the time to stop making excuses!

As much as you may think it’s ‘conversation over’ and ‘options closed’ it still does not blot out what you know, deep down, to be true – you are bothered by your situation, but it’s just that it feels too difficult to make a change. Stop making excuses!

That ‘why bother’ keeps you where you are and stops you trying new things or pushing the edges of your comfort zone. ‘Why not’ on the other hand has a very different power. Just two little words but these two words have challenge, optimism and determination running right through them. It is an invitation to explore and open ourselves up to a more positive flow of options.

These two options represent a crossroads in your life – go one way and you create one type of future… go the other and it’s a different story. You don’t need to be a genius to work out which one is the road that leads to a more fulfilling future. Stop making excuses!

Midlife is a time when many truths ‘want out’.

You have to acknowledge what you want now, what are you going to accept and embrace, as well as what you need to let go, discard and reject. You will be forced to acknowledge that gaping chasm between who you are and who you want to be and between where you are and where you want to be….

This can be painful BUT… the payoff is liberating.

You no longer want to ‘pretend’ and want to shake off the life that no longer fits, but that won’t stop you desperately clinging on at the same time to what you’re trying to let go of!

This turmoil and turbulence usually finds expression in feelings of anger and frustration. But anger and frustration aren’t necessarily bad things, because the energy they produce, when properly channelled, can be that potent force for change you need to kick you into action.

Ask yourself some honest questions about the changes you’ve been considering.

Explore the link between your current situation and your current actions. Then stop making excuses and take responsibility.

Very often you think you don’t know what you want… or at least you convince yourself that you don’t know what you want. You persuade yourself that your ‘future’ is a mystery to be untangled. Sometimes that’s true, but very often it’s not.  You know what you want but you’re simply afraid to admit it because if you admit it, you may just have to do something about it – and that’s the bit that scares the you-know-what out of you, isn’t it?

So, if you are looking to make some changes in your life, it is pretty obvious that continuing to do what you’ve been doing isn’t an option – if you want to GET something different, you have to DO something different. Stop making excuses!

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  1. What a great message! I especially like how you point to the fact that WE KNOW! No one else does. I hold the key to my future. Most of us need a lot of help to use that key and decide which of all the doors to open. You are a wonderful guide Helen! :-)

  2. Helen, inaction can be more disabling than malcontent. As mid-age adults we dislike failure more than we did as young people, so often it is easier to not make changes at all. BUT, as you say, the pay-off is liberating!!

    Great reminder!

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